Don’t Be Afraid To Voice Your Opinion.
You simply can’t go into a relationship letting your other half make all of the decisions. By never sharing your opinion, you’re building a wall between the two of you. One side of the wall gets to make all the decisions, thus doing everything he or she wants and likes, while the other side always bows out and has to settle on the outcome of the decisions made by the other side.
A good relationship involves both parties being able to state their own opions about…..anything. You both should understand you’re not always going to agree on everything and comprimise will need to be made by both of you at different times and during different situations. As long as you make sure you don’t come off as stubborn, or acting as though your decision or opinion is the only one that matters, expressing your opinion should show your partner that you’re a real person with your very own personality that should be listened to and respected.
The decisions you make, and the way you come to form these decisions that you feel free to share with your partner are what should make you interesting to him or her. I know for men, many guys “check their balls at the door” and become afraid to state their opions and beliefs because they don’t want to do anything to turn the woman they’re with off. This could be for fear of not getting laid that night, or for fear of living in “the dog house” because they pissed off their overbearing wife or girlfriend. A relationship where you fear the consequences of simply stating your opinion, in a non-threatening way, is not a good relationship at all.
You’ve seen men like this walking around, holding purses, getting yelled at, and basically becoming lifeless, dull, boring shells of the men they used to be. You need to always feel free to show your man or woman that you have both a personality and a mind. And, using both, you will always have input to add when there’s a decision to be made. By teling your boyfriend or girlfriend what you think abotu something or a situation, you’re letting him or her know who you are.
If you’re asked where you want to eat, never say “wherever you want”. In a situation where you’re asked to make the decision, like where or what to eat for dinner, speak up and say what you really want.
If your girlfriend asks you what you think of her new jeans, tell her the truth. If they look silly (like if she’s wearing boots over skinny jeans) then tell her you think they look silly. If your boyfriend just carved out a “cool dude” design and is calling it his beard then asks you what you think about said beard, don’t be afraid to tell him it looks ridiculous. It should be your opinion that counts so why be afraid to share it?
Sharing your opinion should increase his or her level of respect for you. You’ll gain nothing by always saying, “I don’t know. Whatever you want.”
