Top 5 Dating Mistakes Men Make
Wednesday, 24 Jun 2009
Dating can be an awkward, stressful, and often disappointing journey. Sure, sometimes a date can be smooth, pleasant, and enjoyable, but often times it’s just a mess.
This top 5 dating list is for the fellas. Hopefully you guys will avoid these top five dating mistakes on your next date and make the day/night memorable.
- Showing Off Too Much and/or Trying Too Hard. You don’t need to bring your resume with you and brag about how much money you make, how often you workout, how many women want you, or any other topic that makes you sound arrogant. Confidence is a desirable quality. Often, the less you say about yourself, the more confident you seem.
- Not Listening. This pretty much goes hand in hand with mistake #1. If you’re busy bragging too much, you’re probably not listening to your date. If you’re out with a woman, you can’t make a bigger mistake than not listening. Women love to hear themselves talk, and they love an audience. There’s no way you’re making her feel better about her best friend never hanging out with her anymore if you’re busy talking about how many horsepower your new sports car has.
- You Act Like Chivalry is Dead. Sure, women want to be treated like equals….but that’s at work. A woman still wants to feel like a woman when she’s being courted by a man. Open that door for her. Tell her she looks lovely. If you pick up the tab for the night, make sure she’s comfortable with that. I generally say “No, I’ve got it” three times before I finally let the woman I’m on a date with pay for anything. Also, if you pay for dinner, your drinks, tickets to the show, or whatever, don’t act all cocky about it. There are plenty of men out there who can afford to buy her a meal. She’s on a date with you because she’s hoping you have something more to offer than money.
- You’re Not Making Decisions. Don’t get into a battle of “Whatever you want to do.” Don’t ever answer a question with “I don’t know.” Be a decision maker and get the ball rolling. This doesn’t mean you should order her dinner for her without knowing what she wants, but if she asks you if you’d like to go here or there, answer yes or no. If you answer no, tell her why and offer up an alternative she may be interested in.
- Saying you’ll call, then you don’t. Believe it or not, honesty still is, in most instances, the best policy. If you’re not enjoying the company of the woman you’re on a date with, tell her. You may be hating the night and she may be loving it. If you tell her you’re going to call her, caller her. If you’re not interested then just don’t even mention any futre calls or plans.
If you’re ready to put these dating tips in action, why not make a profile and see what women you’re ready to show a good time to.
